Why Men Have Sex with Men For straight men who have sex with men, same-sex encounters aren't about romance or sexual attraction and desire, but about sexual and physiological arousal—"getting off" with another who's male and accessible. Let's just say he meant what he sang. Read books, joined straight spouse support groups etc etc. Trying to label and pigeon hole everyone as gay or straight is Nieve. But I do the opposite with men.
Informed consent prior to marriage almost never happens.
I was hesitant at first but eventually came around. What are those fantasies like? I fantasize about performing oral sex on other men. The work is as much about education as psychotherapy.
So, yes in these cases, they are misusing the label "bisexual" as a placeholder for "gay" when they finally get around to it.